{"id":17759,"date":"2024-03-08T00:00:44","date_gmt":"2024-03-08T00:00:44","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.sandler.com\/?p=17759"},"modified":"2024-02-05T16:33:34","modified_gmt":"2024-02-05T16:33:34","slug":"sandler-rule-13","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sandler.com\/videos\/sandler-rule-13\/","title":{"rendered":"Sandler Rule #13: No One Gets into Your Head Without Your Permission"},"content":{"rendered":"<div id=\"ez-toc-container\" class=\"ez-toc-v2_0_79_2 counter-hierarchy ez-toc-counter ez-toc-custom ez-toc-container-direction\">\n<div class=\"ez-toc-title-container\">\n<p class=\"ez-toc-title\" style=\"cursor:inherit\">Table of Contents<\/p>\n<span class=\"ez-toc-title-toggle\"><a href=\"#\" class=\"ez-toc-pull-right ez-toc-btn ez-toc-btn-xs ez-toc-btn-default ez-toc-toggle\" aria-label=\"Toggle Table of Content\"><span class=\"ez-toc-js-icon-con\"><span class=\"\"><span class=\"eztoc-hide\" style=\"display:none;\">Toggle<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-icon-toggle-span\"><svg style=\"fill: #999;color:#999\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" class=\"list-377408\" width=\"20px\" height=\"20px\" viewBox=\"0 0 24 24\" fill=\"none\"><path d=\"M6 6H4v2h2V6zm14 0H8v2h12V6zM4 11h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2zM4 16h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2z\" fill=\"currentColor\"><\/path><\/svg><svg style=\"fill: #999;color:#999\" class=\"arrow-unsorted-368013\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" width=\"10px\" height=\"10px\" viewBox=\"0 0 24 24\" version=\"1.2\" baseProfile=\"tiny\"><path d=\"M18.2 9.3l-6.2-6.3-6.2 6.3c-.2.2-.3.4-.3.7s.1.5.3.7c.2.2.4.3.7.3h11c.3 0 .5-.1.7-.3.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7zM5.8 14.7l6.2 6.3 6.2-6.3c.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7c-.2-.2-.4-.3-.7-.3h-11c-.3 0-.5.1-.7.3-.2.2-.3.5-.3.7s.1.5.3.7z\"\/><\/svg><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/a><\/span><\/div>\n<nav><ul class='ez-toc-list ez-toc-list-level-1 ' ><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-1\" href=\"https:\/\/sandler.com\/videos\/sandler-rule-13\/#Sandler_Rule_13\" >Sandler Rule #13<\/a><ul class='ez-toc-list-level-3' ><li class='ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-2\" href=\"https:\/\/sandler.com\/videos\/sandler-rule-13\/#View_the_playlist_for_our_%E2%80%9CNew_52_Sandler_Rules_for_Sales_Success%E2%80%9D_HERE\" >View the playlist for our &#8220;New 52 Sandler Rules for Sales Success&#8221; HERE!<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/li><\/ul><\/nav><\/div>\n<h2 class=\"style-scope ytd-watch-metadata\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Sandler_Rule_13\"><\/span>Sandler Rule #13<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<h4 class=\"style-scope ytd-watch-metadata\">No One Gets into Your Head Without Your Permission<\/h4>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>In this rule, we share valuable insights into the significance of emotional control in the sales profession. Stressing the power of maintaining healthy self-esteem, Sandler emphasizes that external factors should not impact one&#8217;s well-being. He advocates for confidence in abilities and resilience against external opinions.<\/p>\n<p>The discussion underscores the mental aspect of sales, asserting that individuals can control their thoughts and responses. The key takeaways include the crucial role of self-esteem, the need to shield oneself from the emotional impact of sales outcomes, and the importance of confidence.<\/p>\n<p>Sandler explained that our self-esteem should remain detached from the outcomes of sales calls. Sandler advocates for a mindset shift where winning or losing shouldn&#8217;t dictate our self-worth.<\/p>\n<p>Pauline underscores personal control over our minds and destinies, emphasizing that our responses shape our future. Lissa highlights the mental aspect of sales, urging protection against external influences.<\/p>\n<p><strong>By separating personal worth from sales results, we approach interactions with confidence. Another theme is self-identification\u2014knowing who we are independent of roles\u2014which fosters resilience against external judgments.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Sandler&#8217;s advice to not let others control us underscores the importance of self-mastery in sales. This mindset shift, focused on value and relationships, yields far-reaching implications, enhancing empathetic client interactions and fostering resilience for sustained sales success.<\/p>\n<p>Discuss this rule with your sales team and think about how you can apply it in your sales process.\u00a0Find the book, <strong>How To Sell To The Modern Buyer<\/strong>, at <strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/gp\/product\/1737010224\">Amazon<\/a><\/strong> or <a href=\"http:\/\/shop.sandler.com\"><strong>shop.sandler.com<\/strong><\/a> and subscribe to our channel, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/@SandlerWorldwide\"><strong>Sandler Worldwide<\/strong><\/a>, for the rest of the Sandler Rules!<\/p>\n<h3><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"View_the_playlist_for_our_%E2%80%9CNew_52_Sandler_Rules_for_Sales_Success%E2%80%9D_HERE\"><\/span><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/playlist?list=PL3Z0s7ZInq7oKsdE4I8b239PDO1d2qZIy\">View the playlist for our &#8220;New 52 Sandler Rules for Sales Success&#8221; HERE!<\/a><\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Sandler Rule #13 No One Gets into Your Head Without Your Permission &nbsp; In this rule, we share valuable insights into the significance of emotional control in the sales profession. 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